Nichole Webb, MA, LPC - Relationship Counselor, Therapist & Coach
Quiz:  What is your Love Language?
(adapted from The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman)  
This is a great activity to do together with your partner.  It will tell you how you and your partner feel most loved and how you can best show them you love them...through our own love language. 
It till has a lot of value when you take it without your partner or even if you are single.  We have to know how to show ourselves love first before we can teach a partner to love us.  So what's your love language?
Directions: 
For each question, pick the statement that is most true for you. It doesn't matter if your partner does this sort of thing already or whether you think they would do it or not, this is about YOUR love language.  Also you may find that you really like both options but try to choose the one that would make you feel the most cared about.  The add up the # of A,B,C,D,E responses you gave.  Tour top 1-2 are your primary love languages and the lowest 1 may be the one you struggle to show to a partner (if it's 1 of their primary love languages).  See how this can be some great info to have pre-maritally!  And it's never to late to learn!!
 
1.    I like to receive love notes  (A)
       I like to be hugged  (E)
 
2.    I like spending 1 on 1 time with my partner (B)
       I like when my partner gives me practical help (D)
 
3.    I enjoy getting gifts from my partner  (C)
       I enjoy taking long leisurely walks with my partner  (B)
 
4.    I feel loved when my partner does things to help me  (D)
       I feel loved when my partner touches me  (E)
 
5.    I feel loved when my partner puts their arm around me (E)
       I feel loved when I'm surprised with a gift  (C)
 
6.    I like to go anywhere with my partner  (B)
       I like to hold hands with my partner  (E)
 
7.   Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me  (C)
       Being told I am loved is very important to me  (A)
 
8.    I like to sit close to my partner  (E)
       I like for my partner to tell me I'm attractive  (A)
 
9.    I like spending time with my partner  (B)
       I like to receive little gifts from my partner  (C)
 
10.  Words of acceptance are really important from my partner (A)
        I know my partner loves me when my partner helps me out  (D)
 
11.   I like being together and doing thing with my partner  (B)
        I like it when my partner speaks kind words to me  (A)
 
12.  What my partner does affects me more than what he says  (D)
        Hugs make me feel connected and loved by my partner  (E)
 
13.   I value praise from my partner  (A)
        Small but meaningful gifts from my partner shows how much he cares  (C)
 
14.   I feel close to my partner when we are talking or doing something together  (B)
        I feel close to my partner when they touch me often  (E)
 
15.   I like for my partner to compliment my achievements  (A)
        I know my partner loves me when they help me when they are busy  (D)
 
16.   I like to be touched as my partner walks by  (E)
        I like it when my partner shows genuine interest in what I am saying  (B)
 
17.   I feel loved when my partner helps me with chores or projects  (D)
        I feel loved when I receive a thoughtful gift from my partner  (C)
 
18.   I feel loved when my partner compliments me on my appearance (A)
        I feel loved when my partner takes time to understand my feelings  (B)
 
19.   I feel secure when my partner is holding me  (E)
        When my partner runs errands for me, it makes me feel loved  (D)
 
20.   I appreciate the little things that my partner does for me  (D)
        I appreciate thoughtful gifts my partner makes for me  (C)
 
21.   I really enjoy getting my partner's undivided attention  (B)
        I really enjoy coming home to my partner having cleaned the house (D)
 
22.   For my birthday I feel loved when I get a thoughtful or expensive gift  (C)
        For my birthday I feel loved when I get a love letter telling me how special I am  (A)
 
23.   I know my partner is thinking about me when they give me a gift  (C)
        I know my partner is thinking about me when they plan a date night  (D)
 
24.   I appreciate it when my partner listens patiently and doesn't interrupt  (B)
        I never tire of getting gifts from my partner  (C)
 
25.   I like knowing my partner is concerned enough to help with daily chores  (D)
        I enjoy taking trips with my partner, no matter where we go  (B)
 
26.   I enjoy kissing & cuddling with my partner  (E)
        I enjoy surprise gifts from my partner (C)
 
27.   My partner's encouraging words give me confidence  (A)
        I like to watch movies with my partner  (B)
 
28.   Gifts from my partner are special to me  (C)
         I love it when my partner can't keep their hands off me  (E)
 
29.   I feel loved when my partner enthusiastically helps me out (D)
        I feel loved when my partner tells me things they appreciate that I've done  (A)
 
30.   If we've been apart, I love hugging and kissing  (E)
        I love hearing my partner tell me how much he missed me after we've been apart (A)
 
Mostly A's Verbal Affirmation
Mostly B's  Quality Time
Mostly C's  Receiving Gifts
Mostly D's  Acts of Service
Mostly E's  Physical Touch
 
 
 
      
 
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